1. Be kind to yourself
Few of us ever expected to be living through a global pandemic before news of the Coronavirus in China broke out. Yet, here we are – after a year of self-isolating, working from home, sticking to lockdowns and adjusting the way we live our lives.
That’s a lot to take in. And that’s why, first of all: we need to be kind to ourselves.
We’re going through a difficult time and it’s ok to find it challenging. We’re human and really: it’s not easy!
So, let’s not be too hard on ourselves if we’re not feeling our perkiest. Let’s instead take one day at a time. And of course, let’s also try and keep the hope.
After all: all bad things come to an end and as Allah (SWT) tells us in the Holy Qur’an: “… with hardship comes ease” (94:5).
2. Make time for self-care
When we don’t make time for ourselves, life can seem overwhelming. And this is all the more true when we’re working and living in the same space and everything seems to merge together.
We must set aside time for ourselves – even if it’s just 30 minutes a day – to focus on us and only us! Here are a few ideas to get you started:
- Pray or meditate: Take some time to reflect and to decompress
- Chillax: Watch your favourite TV show or pick up a book you’ve been meaning to finish for ages
- Pamper yourself: Ladies – put on a facemask, give yourself a hand massage or do a home pedicure. Gents – if that’s not your thing, don’t rush your daily shower and if you have a beard, make sure you’re keeping it nice and neat
Whatever it is, the important thing is that it’s something that you enjoy and something for YOU only. So relax, take some time out and reward yourself!
3. Eat healthily
As the saying goes: “You are what you eat”. We all know that eating healthily and avoiding food that’s high in fat and sugar is good for our bodies. But, did you know that food also affects our mood too?
Yes, eating more healthily helps improve our mood, give us more energy and think more clearly. When our blood sugar drops, we become tired, irritable and low in mood.
So, by eating regularly and choosing foods that release energy slowly, we can steady our blood sugar levels.
We can improve our diets by:
- Having a good breakfast
- Eating smaller meals at regular intervals (as opposed to fewer larger meals)
- Choosing slow-release foods such as nuts, seeds, pasta, rice, oats and wholegrain bread and cereals
- Avoiding foods which are high in sugar: sweets, sugary drinks, desserts and biscuits
- Keeping hydrated – drink lots of water!
- Ensuring you have your 5-a-day of fruit and veg – rich in vitamins and minerals!
- Limit your intake of caffeine to regulate energy levels and sleep patterns
If you’re looking for ideas of tasty healthy meals, check out our Going Veggie, Going Green Series. We’ve got lots of tasty recipes from around the world: Palestinian delights, vegetable Thai green curry, aubergine parmesan bake, vegetable chilli and a vegan curry.
Go on, give them a go!
4. Keep a routine
For many of us, our daily commute and stint in the office has been swapped for working from home, followed by – yes you guessed correctly – eating dinner at home and… staying at home after work!
What’s more, for parents now home-schooling and caring for children pretty much 24/7, the old daily routine has changed dramatically.
Of course, we’re not where we were before physically, but daily life still carries on. And with that: so too must a routine.
Sticking to a daily routine is critical for maintaining a sense of “normality” and ensuring that we don’t get side-tracked by our beds, the sofa or our own thoughts. It reduces stress levels and can stop us ruminating.
So, if you are working from home, or are currently not working, our daily routine should include:
- A good breakfast: This helps us to get ready for the day ahead, get enough energy and prepare mentally for work
- Lunch: Do not skip lunch. You need time out and again: food is important!
- Fresh air: Try and go out once a day to breathe in some fresh air and stretch your legs away from your phone/work desk/computer
- Dinner: Once you’ve finished work, mentally “clock out” and sit down to a nutritious meal
- Socialising: If you’re living with friends and family, have a meal together or sit down to watch an evening film. If you live alone, be sure to connect daily with others via phone call, messenger, video call or text
- Sleep: Stick to a “normal” sleep schedule. Don’t stay up late to ensure you get a good night’s quality sleep!
By sticking to a routine, we can gain some sense of a regular “working week”/day amidst the madness of the pandemic. With less stress, a good night’s sleep, regular breaks and meals, we can look after our minds and keep healthier.
5. Get active outdoors
So, we’ve established that we need to get some fresh air to break up our time at home. And the perfect way to do this is….. Yes – going for a walk!
Physical activity is great for our mental wellbeing. Just 10 minutes a day of brisk walking can improve our mood, energy and alertness. Power walking, jogging, a long walk or even cycling are great ways to get out of the house and beat the blues.
What’s even better though, is if we can do this in a lovely green space such as a local park.
Not only is exercise good for our mental health, but so too are green spaces. Research by Warwick University has shown that Londoners who live within 300 metres of a green space “have significantly better mental wellbeing” than those who do not.
The study concluded that:
Overall there is a very strong relationship between the amount of green space around a person’s home and their feelings of life satisfaction, happiness and self-worth.
So, at a time when we’re feeling trapped, unhappy and fed up, put on your walking or cycling shoes and head to your local park for some exercise. Remember though that at the moment, you can only do this alone or with one other person.
6. Connect with others
For people who are living on their own, maintaining contact with friends and family is one of the most important things we can do at the moment. This is crucial to fight loneliness.
Loneliness is often short-term and by keeping in touch with those outside of our home, we can expand our social life – albeit virtually!
You can even make an activity out of it. Why not set up a weekly film night with a friend or host a Zoom party? With a little bit of creativity and a lot of technology, there are many ways to connect and do something fun with other people.
It’s critical that whatever you do, you do it with other people. Long-term loneliness is damaging to our mental health and can even lead to depression, anxiety and increased levels of stress.
Even if you’re living with family and friends, it’s important to maintain our regular individual social relationships. You can still feel lonely if you feel disconnected, even if you’re not physically on your own.
Talking to our loved ones who we can’t see face-to-face but can chat with over video, gives us back some sense of control over our life and a change in the working-at-home schedule.
7. Seek specialist help
Given the pandemic and the effects it’s having on all of our lives, feeling sad, lonely or unsure of the future is completely normal. We all feel this way from time-to-time.
However, if you’re finding your mood is affecting your ability to work and/or you’re struggling significantly with your mental health, please do seek professional help.
Speak to your doctor or reach out to a mental health charity for specialist advice. There is absolutely no shame in doing so – in fact, it’s an incredibly brave step.
8. Don’t overwork
For those of us who are working from home, the good thing is that keeping busy gives us a sense of purpose – and help ease financial worries. However, we mustn’t run the risk of overworking. And that’s all too easy when our home and office merge into one physical space!
By reminding ourselves of our work duties, sticking to our working hours and prioritising self-care (see above!), we can help reduce our stress levels.
This is crucial, as overworking can lead to:
- Over-reliance on caffeine: This can raise our blood sugar and anxiety levels
- Poor sleeping patterns: This in turn can lead to worry and stress
- Bad eating habits: Not allowing time for home-cooked meals, eating quickly or eating sugary and fatty foods or nothing at all can all cause low moods
As we’ve seen above, maintaining a healthy diet, good routine and self-care timetable are critical for our mental health. Overworking disturbs this balance and steals our time, energy and ultimately: happiness.
One great way of ensuring that you separate work and “home life” is by dressing for work as you would do as if you were going to the office. Put on a shirt or smart jumper and then when it’s time to “clock off”, you can then dig out the loungewear!
For those of you who are still working in your normal place of work, make sure that you’re factoring in breaks wherever possible and are staying hydrated. Try to get a good night’s sleep to recuperate and make sure you’re eating properly!
9. Access financial support
Financial worries are incredibly stressful and sadly this is something that’s been affecting a high number of individuals and families across the nation – in particular during the pandemic.
The pandemic has increased financial hardship as jobs have been furloughed or terminated, businesses shut down and family members have died, leaving behind loved ones unsure of how they’ll cope financially.
Islamic Relief have been working around the globe to help support those who have lost their livelihoods amid the pandemic. One of our initiatives include donating critical funds to the National Zakat Foundation to go towards their Hardship Fund. This is enabling vulnerable people to get cash so they can buy essential urgent items such as food, toiletries and nappies.
Try and research what financial help is available to you in your country and how you can access it.
10. Speak out
In addition to the deadly threat of Covid-19 on our lives, one of the worst outcomes of the pandemic is the negative effect of Coronavirus on women.
For women stuck in abusive relationships, lockdown has increased the risks and/or frequency of being abused. Stuck at home, potentially financially insecure, socially-isolated and cut off from friends and family, these women are incredibly vulnerable.
Heartbreakingly, within just three weeks of the first lockdown, domestic homicides more than doubled.
Research has found that the pandemic has “exposed” a domestic abuse crisis. Quite notably, this isn’t due to a greater number of abusers but the social and economic pressures that have arisen as a result of Covid, which have in turn made it more difficult for women to leave abusive relationships.
The impact of domestic abuse on women’s emotional, psychological and physical wellbeing is devastating. Leading to depression and anxiety – and in some cases suicidal thoughts – domestic abuse ruins women’s self-esteem and sense of dignity and worth.
We must honour all women. As Prophet Muhammad (SAW) said:
The best of you are those who are best to their wives. (Tirmidhi)
We should all prioritise our mental health. Please look after yourself and seek the support you may need.
May Allah (SWT) protect and bless us all, ameen.